Oh the duality
I find the duality pushed by the mainstream pop-culture to be very distressing. People are so often encouraged to live two lives. Think of how many times people tell us we should have two facebook accounts, one private one professional. Is it really that difficult for people to realize that the net is not private. If two people were caught being naughty on the beach they can’t hide behind anything, what exactly do we have to hide behind on the internet? Someone’s promise of “security” or an HTTPS.
The problem is not that people try so hard to live dual lives but that it is actually proposed as a solution to avoid potentially embarrassing situations. People create two lives and then cannot properly manage them and end up looking even worse when they cuss the boss off on one website then praise him on another only to realize they mixed the sites up.
An elegant solution to me seems to be to unite the personas. If you meet your boss at a bar when drunk don’t try to play it off as something you don’t do often, just accept it and move forward. After all, he’s there for a reason too isn’t he?
It’s kind of like the public bathroom paradox. We can all stand next to each other holding our dicks and pissing (guys) yet taking a crap is somehow different. Yes it stinks and no one wants to admit they produced that POS but we all do it and all NEED to do it so why the duality?
And so someone will say that public crapping duality arose in an age much less accepting and more strict about such things when we were all proper persons who learned our Latin and grammar. However, this is precisely the reason why we, in today’s enlightened age should not only dissuade such practice of duality but disallow it.
Have some integrity, honour, and self-respect for who you are and what you do.